Self-Confidence...:(

[NayNay1991x]

Hello, i Go to college and i have never Had any Confidence at all even when i was at school which is why my attendance at school was below average.. Even when the teacher asks me a Question or when a Person shouts my name and talks to me when other people can hear i Dont feel like me and my Face turns red most of the time, im Ok talking outdoors but not indoors.. What do you think is wrong or What could i do about this ?

 

[veedubfreak]

Join a frat, become an a-hole, treat women like crap. Thats the college way. Also, you are asking this on a computer forum, you are only going to get 2 types of responses, people showing off their epeen about how many women they get and people who also have the same problem.

Also, antidepressents work wonders. Lexipro is my friend.

 

[Kharn]

^ We don't have frats in the UK the only thing that comes close is some of the old gentleman's cricket clubs in the posher collages like Oxford an Cambridge.

 

[veedubfreak]

Hey you could always join up and become a chav then

 

[westy159]

Chav =/= old gentlemen who play cricket

>___<

To TC, the only way to overcome it is to get out more... or drink...

 

[Kharn]

^Drink is a good one!

 

[Oreo]

Ooo no confidence... hmm... start being cocky to teachers don't do well in unimportant subjects, but secretly worry your *** off about homework. Get a girlfriend that thinks your 'cute', but nice...have *it* and your confidence will appear again. Thats what all tech-forums people do, many of our friends don't know we spend 4 hours a night on a forum, infact they think were cool. Wow there wrong...

 

[atomic tofu]

I've always had confidence....BUT mine might not count.
It's that quiet confidence...the type that doesn't care to impress anybody, lol
Not cocky....though american women love that (even when they lie about not liking it), so take that as you will.

as for school, I did well in things like literature, history, physics (the reading part)....math, statistics and labs always messed me up.

So yeah, my type of confidence isn't what you're looking for...IE., real confidence
Try to be loud and obnoxious and yes, try to treat people crappy...basically try your best to e a jerk but with tact, that's the type of confidence MOST people readily accept. If you're a jerk but you pay attention to them, they'll love you, if you're not and you mind your own business and couldn't care less to know them, they'll hate you for it.

 

[Trotter]

Look at it this way... everyone else is just like you, even the teachers. All of them get up every morning, put on their clothes, and go about their day in the same way and manner as you do. Basically, you are at least equal to each and every one of them. this goes for the other students, your professors, and even the dean of the school. All of them are on the same level you are as far as the world is concerned.

I am guessing that you feel inferior to those around you. Once you realize that you aren't inferior, things look different. Once upon a time I was scared to death of speaking to management at work. I finally figured out that they were just like me but in a different position. After that, I had no problem talking to them, and am now moving my way into management.

We have faith in you.

 

[Kharn]

Trotter has hit the nail on the head once again, every one is the same underneath there is no reason to fear / be intimidated by some one they are the same as you!

The best way to build confidence is socialise with people go to a pub or a party an just chat the more you speak to people the more likely you are to build confidence.