Your current machine will either be using 1066, 1333, or at best 1600MHz DDR3. These machines start at DDR4 2400 and HP likes to use 2666. Individually not that big of a deal, but as a combined package it adds up, especially in laptops where you're held back by power consumption.
No, not really. Userbench is bad because there's no control, it's just a bunch of users inputting data. When dealing with mobile it gets even worse.
Best case scenario you can find the laptops you're looking at on Notebookcheck and compare that way.
Tabs and Excel are RAM intensive, you'll want 16.