Similar story here,although i learned how to type fast (I cant quite touch type though im getting there ) by using the computer too oftenI learnt to touch type completly while using MSN a little too much...
I closed my eyes at one point, and could imagine the keys infront of me, and when you can do that, you can start to look away, and you'll gain confidence.
There are many flash games that are built to help you learn though:
Some of these can be rather fun
I don't follow any given rule. Just like with piano playing. I learnt my own way to play stuff. I think it hampers too much...okay for starters you put your left index finger on the F key and your right one on the J key. then ure right middle on the k right ring on the L right pinky on the ;
Left middle on d left ring on s left pinky on a.
move your fingers up and down from the keys..