please do not cross post. it makes it difficult for people to help you because 2 separate threads may have overlapping information on it or missing key information from the other.
ok staying on the subject... there is software from ostrosoft, youll will have to do a search on the web, but they have a suite that will let you test/probe ports ect. if anything it will help you find the port on your computer and see if it opens up. other programs on their site help in various networking tasks. http://www.ostrosoft.com/ (thats the site)...hope this will help you...