Well, I found out what was going on, the NVIDIA card is shot, and it happened to so many people with these models, that their is a class action lawsuit against NVIDIA and they are recalling many of the models and replacing the computers with brand new ones...
My problem is that the affected models for this recall are dv9000 - dv9400 (amoung many other models and makes) and my model is dv9500, not included in the recall... so hopefully they will either add my model, or at least I know what the problem is and try and have someone fix it.
Here is the HP support website with 122 pages of complaints about this very problem and info about the law suit. about 1/2 way down there is a guy on ebay that fixes this for $80 (incase I cant get into the recall) I might try out, and the first post links the lawsuit website.
hp dv9500 screen problem - Page 121 - HP Support Forum