lol... I don't think my expectations where too high...
actually I figured it out. I had a configuration problem in my BIOS. My bios automatically set all my drives to IDE. I never changed that. So now I changed it to AHCI. HUGE, GIGANTIC DIFFERENCE. my hard drive now is at 7.7 . I know that doesn't sound like alot...but all the freezes, etc.. everything stopped.
It's just like I imagined it would be. smirk.
[hair blowing in the wind while I am typing this....]
and now that I stopped look for a solution I can look at articles about OC'ing. Cause I am def interested to at least give it a try.