I wouldn't give up hope and I know what you mean about being high strung. I screwed up my BIOS and hot flashed it about 10 times literally...if you don't know what hotflashing is, it's putting in a good BIOS chip, start up your computer to DOS prompt, remove the BIOS chip, and put in the corrupted one all while the system is running to repair it.
Anywho....I'm not sure about the internals of laptop regarding what kind of connectors it has. Have you taken out the laptop HD and does it at all have a normal IDE connector and power connector? If it has a normal IDE connector but not power, you'll be aright. Because as ghetto as this sounds, you could connect the IDE from your computer you want the files to go to and set the jumpers to SLAVE and put it on the SLAVE part of the IDE cable and then put the power cable from the laptop to the HD. You'd basically have to boot up the computers at the exact same time, but it could work.
If it's a normal IDE and power connector then you SHOULD just be able to put it in the other computer, set the jumper to SLAVE or CABLE SELECT and put it again on the Slave portion of the IDE cable. Trust me I've done a lot more ghetto stuff than this before so my motto is try EVERYTHING you can when it's important.
If you can't do any of that have you tried like I said and pop in the winXP CD,let it boot from that and use the windows repair and that should keep all your original files