Thank you guys for posting. After people started to bring up the Mobo i looked at some angry reviewers of the Mobo on NewEgg which lead me to the fix - that being that the mobo has problems with Q9XXX chips if you have a Bios version later than the 0803 one.
So a lot of people on the Asus forum have been posting about this on the P5Q - Deluxe and even state that 80% - 90% of people are having the issue and that most fix the problem by EZ Flashing back to 0803.
So i downloaded 0803 and USB Drive EZ Flashed it.. And proceeded to install Vista 64 which i'm sitting in right now. YAY! (fingers are still crossed)
Apparently the problem is common although the symptoms can range with most people (i saw) complaining about BSOD within the installed OS and people having problems after days of solid usage.
Naphtali: I know, i didn't expect the OS to run properly or anything, I was just doing it to try to help see what the issue could be, and it kinda ruled out that it was the hard drive doing it. And some of the issues i was having with the Vista Drive were very close to the issues with out it, so i guess i just did it to have more information to play with in determining what might be going on. That drive is for another (older AMD) machine i have here. The original plan was to always install a new OS on the brand new drive i got at the same time as eveyrhting else i bought.
Also sadly even though i have tons of little parts to play with, mobos and CPUs are none of them
. If this bios thing didn't work i was thinking of just buying a new Mobo and going from there.
And just to answer your other questions. Yeah everything else worked great like the bios and express gate, and yeah with out the HD in i had Vista in the DVD drive.. it just made it a little further that time before it failed.