Yeah please don't flame me for starting this, but there are alot of teenage techies on this forum who are very similiar to me in dating situations with girls and stuff, I just wanted some advice really.
Okay so since I got into my strength traning circuit I burnt off alot my weight and am alot muscular now, i got myself a crew cut and let my beard grow out a bit, and I'm not trying to brag but with a cut teeshirt and some jeans I look **** sexy. Anyways I got out of the habit of wearing my glasses 24/7 unless I'm in class or on the comp, and alot of girls have been taking notice to me, really I think because of my new haircut, before I had this sort of.. shag thing.. on my head. But yeah I look bad now with my new look.
One thing, I'm not ready to handle all the attention I'm getting. Lots of girls have been talking to me lately, and I usually play off my old "nice guy" routine but we all know where that takes me, to the friend zone. I'm not a player or anything but I'm definatly not looking to be recognized as a huge *** geek, which really, I am
Basically I've noticed when I sort of puff out my chest a little, keep my chin a bit higher then usual, and looking straight in the eyes of the girl I'm talking to in a low tone they blush or look away really quickly if I'm looking at them. I'm noticing alot of girls looking at me in the hall way, and lately I've tried looking back at them in the eye, and I realize they look at me, then look down, and peek back to see if I'm still looking, then I get really nervous, and look away or smile a bit, yeah I'm really shy when it comes to these things but I'm trying my best. Like a few times today I'd be talking to a girl and I'd try my best to maintain eye contact and keep my chin up and the girls would always look me in the eye, smile, look away and look back, I wouldnt STARE DOWN the girl, I'd look at them for a while, look away at someone else I was talking to, or I'd just look up sort of too, like I"d look at them for 1-3 second spans. if anyone blushed the most it was me, I guess the girls took notice of that too.
Anyways, I need advice, I need to secure a girlfriend. I'm getting sort of better at the whole compliments thing, I find it works better when it comes from the heart instead of all that "act like a player" BS. Today I saw this really cute girl I had a few classes with in the past years and she talked to me for a bit, and I didn't really say much but "Oh yeah? yeah? cool.." then when I walked away I was like "**** WHY DIDNT YOU MAKE A MOVE" so I looked around and called out her name and said "HEY... I LIKE THE WAY YOUR HAIR LOOKS!!" and I noticed she smiled really big and looked at me for a bit and waved while her face turned a bit red.
I'm not trying to brag here, no one flame me, if you want to go away, I'm just a simple guy trying to take advantage of what I worked so hard to achieve, good looks and appeal to the ladies, well, I think I achieved it anyways =-/ I'm trying to remain as humble as possible here, honest lol.
Anyways how do I keep this up? Anyone have any tips or stuff? I sometimes like joking a bit too much and end up looking like a comedian instead of that "really fun to be around" guy. I don't know, I'm open to advice here, anything really helps
Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.
Okay so since I got into my strength traning circuit I burnt off alot my weight and am alot muscular now, i got myself a crew cut and let my beard grow out a bit, and I'm not trying to brag but with a cut teeshirt and some jeans I look **** sexy. Anyways I got out of the habit of wearing my glasses 24/7 unless I'm in class or on the comp, and alot of girls have been taking notice to me, really I think because of my new haircut, before I had this sort of.. shag thing.. on my head. But yeah I look bad now with my new look.
One thing, I'm not ready to handle all the attention I'm getting. Lots of girls have been talking to me lately, and I usually play off my old "nice guy" routine but we all know where that takes me, to the friend zone. I'm not a player or anything but I'm definatly not looking to be recognized as a huge *** geek, which really, I am
Basically I've noticed when I sort of puff out my chest a little, keep my chin a bit higher then usual, and looking straight in the eyes of the girl I'm talking to in a low tone they blush or look away really quickly if I'm looking at them. I'm noticing alot of girls looking at me in the hall way, and lately I've tried looking back at them in the eye, and I realize they look at me, then look down, and peek back to see if I'm still looking, then I get really nervous, and look away or smile a bit, yeah I'm really shy when it comes to these things but I'm trying my best. Like a few times today I'd be talking to a girl and I'd try my best to maintain eye contact and keep my chin up and the girls would always look me in the eye, smile, look away and look back, I wouldnt STARE DOWN the girl, I'd look at them for a while, look away at someone else I was talking to, or I'd just look up sort of too, like I"d look at them for 1-3 second spans. if anyone blushed the most it was me, I guess the girls took notice of that too.
Anyways, I need advice, I need to secure a girlfriend. I'm getting sort of better at the whole compliments thing, I find it works better when it comes from the heart instead of all that "act like a player" BS. Today I saw this really cute girl I had a few classes with in the past years and she talked to me for a bit, and I didn't really say much but "Oh yeah? yeah? cool.." then when I walked away I was like "**** WHY DIDNT YOU MAKE A MOVE" so I looked around and called out her name and said "HEY... I LIKE THE WAY YOUR HAIR LOOKS!!" and I noticed she smiled really big and looked at me for a bit and waved while her face turned a bit red.
I'm not trying to brag here, no one flame me, if you want to go away, I'm just a simple guy trying to take advantage of what I worked so hard to achieve, good looks and appeal to the ladies, well, I think I achieved it anyways =-/ I'm trying to remain as humble as possible here, honest lol.
Anyways how do I keep this up? Anyone have any tips or stuff? I sometimes like joking a bit too much and end up looking like a comedian instead of that "really fun to be around" guy. I don't know, I'm open to advice here, anything really helps
Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.