Please help!

[TheMajor]

Like mentioned before, I think if it isn't an obsession and the person is at least 18 years it doesn't really matter. (almost) Everybody watches porn and it doesn't destroy a relationship in most cases.

aykfc: maybe u can be a little more specific about your 'relative'.
Who is it?
I can tell u my uncles watch porn, I do, my dad does etc etc

I wouldnt put any keyloggers on the PC except if the person is a young child.

Frans

 

[aykfc]

Well, I guess it wouldn't hurt. He is my brother, and will be married for a year in December. He was on drugs for about 5 years, and I am conerned, if he is, that his wife would find him untrustworthy, thus getting a divorce, and under all the stress go back on them. This woman has been very good for my brother and I don't want anything to happen. She pressured him to get off the drugs.

 

[heavywx]

The best thing you can do is have some face time with your brother. Explane to him the consiquences of his action. If he's just a casual surfer, then his wife needs to lighten up. If he has a serious problem then he made need more help than you could give him (see a professional).

There is nothing to gain by poking around in his machine without his premission. Step back and take a serious look at what you want to do. Is it really worth the risk.

On a lighter note, Introduce him to online gaming, he won't have time for porn lol. Between COD, Halo, and Knight Online, I barely have time for work, much less porn lol.

 

[soundgarden]

He is my brother...

I understand how you feel aykfc. My sister dresses very slutty, however i could never tell her what to do becuause she is the closest person to me. Me and her are more than siblings. I trust her more than anyone, even my mother. And i find it very hard to tell her NOT to do something.

The most successful tactic I use is try to find the reason for the things she does and then emmerse her in opposite things. For example I take her to plays where dressing appropriate is necessary. I think if i continue to do this, she might change her ways.

And I agree with you aykfc, if a person is married he/she should not watch porn. I admit I use to watch porn. However when i started college and I got a job i really didnt care for it. I always had things to do.

So, i think you should have your sister-in-law do more things with your husband. Tell her to take him out places. Do things he like to do. Then he will see that she really cares for him, and he might change his ways.