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yeah I would never marry just for sex because a relationship is about having fun like watching movies, bowling, playing pool, swimming, ect. And sure there are down moments too like if you where in a relationship and your girlfriend or boyfriend got in a car accident. Some teens think life is all about sex but its totally not.
 
Hrm. Dating is bout watching movies, bowling, pool, ect, but I wouldn't say that's what a relationship is about. That's the social aspect of it, sure, but I think that the relationship is best if it is centered on an emotional and intellectual bond. Someone to share your feelings and ideas with, to work things through with, and someone who compensates for your flaws, and you for theirs, making both of you a better person than you could be without them.
 
here is our aim convernsation

me (7:05:26 AM): have fun at work... joke.
her (7:50:11 AM): Haha ya thanks.
me (7:50:13 AM): yeah
her (7:50:19 AM): your welcome
me (7:53:00 AM): don't have too much fun
her (7:54:04 AM): ill try my best.
me (7:54:17 AM): nice
me (7:54:40 AM): I will try and not have as much fun as you at work
her (7:55:22 AM): your working?
me (7:55:31 AM): no I am trying to win stuff online but its not working to well
me (7:55:42 AM): sorry for the confusion
me (7:59:56 AM): I won a mirror online yesterday but I don't know what to do with it.
me (8:00:22 AM): wondered if you'd want it
her (8:03:37 AM): na thats ok but thank you.
me (8:03:39 AM): yeah
me (8:06:25 AM): don't forget to drive careful
her (8:07:24 AM): im driving lol i am walkingi Haha.
me (8:07:28 AM): oh
me (8:07:41 AM): my bad
me (8:10:36 AM): its not too hot out
me (8:11:30 AM): don't forget to have fun later
her (8:12:11 AM): o i always do
me (8:12:12 AM): I can tell
me (8:12:56 AM): Shady is a fun place
me (8:13:10 AM): just kidding
her (8:14:01 AM): well i got to go i will talk to you later bub.
me (8:14:09 AM): bub?
me (8:14:09 AM): bud?
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me (5:21:01 PM): have fun at work?
me (5:21:23 PM): I took your advice and went outside to enjoy the weather
me (5:21:59 PM): I took the inside of my car appart and fixed the window, and did some other stuff
her (5:21:07 PM): o cool.
me (5:25:37 PM): yeah
me (5:26:31 PM): Now I am bored
me (5:27:22 PM): I am trying to do something with some computer software i got but its not working right
me (5:28:08 PM): did you have fun at work then>?
me (5:28:27 PM): I bet you had a lot of stupid ?'s to answer
her (5:24:04 PM): o of course.
me (5:28:40 PM): I knew you would
her (5:25:06 PM): Haha not really i worked with thei able decorators today.
me (5:29:42 PM): oh nice
me (5:29:56 PM): more fun working with cake?
her (5:25:59 PM): ya i like i8.
me (5:30:56 PM): more fun then answering stupid questions
her (5:27:12 PM): yes sir.
me (5:32:20 PM): I can't wait to get out of shady and get a real job
her (5:28:32 PM): Haha. eh i am not in a hurry.
me (5:33:15 PM): I am
me (5:33:49 PM): If I had my license I would either be out of there or working 2 jobs
her (5:30:23 PM): Haha why? what do you need the money for?
me (5:35:05 PM): to buy stuff
me (5:35:25 PM): I also want to move out of this house when I am 19-20 if not sooner
her (5:31:09 PM): well Duh.
me (5:35:47 PM): yeah
me (5:35:52 PM): you asked
her (5:31:33 PM): cant you buy stuff with what you make at shady.
me (5:36:08 PM): yeah right
me (5:36:21 PM): not making enough
her (5:33:55 PM): why do you want to move out so early?
me (5:38:36 PM): lots of teens move out early
her (5:34:16 PM): well i guess its not early but ya
her (5:34:28 PM): i will be at college soo ya
me (5:39:08 PM): nice
her (5:35:05 PM): indeed
me (5:39:45 PM): yeah
me (5:39:54 PM): sorry I am a little slow but I am multitasking
me (5:40:17 PM): printing, typing, editing photos, ect
her (5:37:07 PM): o its ok im doing alot of stuff too soo sry if i am slow to answere
me (5:41:47 PM): thats alright
me (5:45:24 PM): my printer is supposed to print black ink but everything i print is multicolored
her (5:41:18 PM): did you run out?
me (5:45:55 PM): I don't think so I think I have to clean the ink heads
her (5:43:09 PM): o um ok haha i know nothing about computers sry i cvant help oyu
me (5:47:46 PM): I knew you'd say something like that
me (5:48:02 PM): Its so easy to fix if you know about computers and stuff
me (5:48:22 PM): new technology makes everything so easy
her (5:45:42 PM): hmm really? eh im not all into that
me (5:50:18 PM): oh
her (5:45:59 PM): haha
me (5:50:40 PM): talk to you later
her (5:46:21 PM): haha ok bye
me (5:51:38 PM): want some laughs go to my website at Funny Jokes fb is for funny blonde jokes
me (5:51:55 PM): bye
me (6:01:49 PM): I know your busy but did you read any of those jokes?
me (6:02:08 PM): some are strange and others are funny
her (5:57:48 PM): o no sry i forgot
me (6:02:30 PM): thats ok
her (6:00:53 PM): thanks haha
me (6:01:20 PM): yeah no prob
her (6:01:33 PM): you talk alot more on the computer
me (6:02:17 PM): yeah thats cause I hate talking at work when theres work to do
me (6:02:37 PM): I hate getting paid to talk when i am supposed to get paid to work
her (6:02:44 PM): hmm i see well thats a good trait
me (6:03:10 PM): yeah
her (6:03:31 PM): sry i talk alot
me (6:03:53 PM): I don't want to start talking a lot and get a better job, talk a lot, and get fired
me (6:03:55 PM): thats ok
her (6:03:48 PM): oo i see
her (6:05:49 PM): Do you have fun calling everyone slackers?
me (6:06:19 PM): sort of
me (6:06:24 PM): sometimes it just slips out
her (6:06:09 PM): haha
me (6:06:52 PM): yeah
me (6:11:19 PM): this summer went to fast
her (6:11:37 PM): indeed
me (6:12:38 PM): I can't wait till I turn 18
her (6:12:31 PM): for why?
me (6:13:09 PM): so I can get a credit card and have my license so i can drive
her (6:13:21 PM): well i just have to wait till nov till i can drive
me (6:14:00 PM): yeah you and me both
me (6:14:06 PM): I turn 18 in november
her (6:13:57 PM): yep cool
me (6:14:25 PM): yeah
her (6:14:23 PM): are you gonna have a car?
me (6:15:00 PM): I have one already I told you I took it appart and fixed the window
me (6:15:31 PM): maybe you didn't see that earlier
me (6:15:40 PM): I type too fast
her (6:15:54 PM): hmm I though it was liek a family car or somthing
her (6:15:59 PM): i didnt realze it was yours
her (6:16:01 PM): sry man
me (6:16:25 PM): thats ok
me (6:16:43 PM): I wouldn't work on the family car though in case something went wrong
her (6:16:33 PM): oo i see
me (6:16:56 PM): yeah
me (6:17:26 PM): I just realized how slow this computer is
me (6:19:22 PM): took about 2 minutes to refresh a web page
her (6:19:14 PM): hm wow kinda slow
me (6:19:43 PM): hey
her (6:19:27 PM): yes
me (6:19:54 PM): just kidding
her (6:19:50 PM): haok
me (6:20:17 PM): haok?
her (6:20:29 PM): ha. ok.
me (6:20:58 PM): oh
her (6:21:46 PM): so oyu seriously dont listen to any music?
me (6:22:23 PM): I listen to some music
her (6:22:21 PM): besides james bond lol
me (6:22:57 PM): I got songs other then james bond but I don't know the band or the group
me (6:23:19 PM): the one song is 3 doors down or something like that
her (6:23:11 PM): i know them
me (6:23:33 PM): I could tell you but my good computer isn't working right now
her (6:23:24 PM): o ok
me (6:23:49 PM): you know them
her (6:23:36 PM): yes sir
me (6:24:06 PM): nice
me (6:24:54 PM): I found an article online: this one guy got fined one million dollars
her (6:24:48 PM): for what?
me (6:25:22 PM): he hacked into the government computers and placed illegal movie downloads
her (6:25:14 PM): psshh
me (6:25:58 PM): I wish I had that kind of money
her (6:25:47 PM): na i dont
me (6:26:18 PM): why?
me (6:26:51 PM): writing a story?
her (6:26:33 PM): i dont want to be rich i just want to have enough to live like pay house an car what ever my needs but not alot of extra
me (6:27:08 PM): oh i see
her (6:26:54 PM): you calling me slow?
me (6:27:16 PM): no
her(6:27:00 PM): ya sure
me (6:27:20 PM): I was joking
her (6:27:02 PM): pssh
her (6:27:07 PM): o no i dont think you wree
her (6:27:09 PM): lol.
me (6:27:36 PM): I bet you type faster then me
her (6:27:26 PM): na. prob not
me (6:27:52 PM): you never know
her (6:27:36 PM): true
me (6:28:42 PM): when do i lie?
her (6:28:38 PM): um i dont know lol
me (6:29:13 PM): good answer
me (6:30:07 PM): technology just keeps getting better
me (6:30:19 PM): I just found a website that I can text people with my computer for free
her (6:30:33 PM): cool, but is it free for the poeple your texting?
me (6:31:07 PM): not sure though I need a cell phone to do that
her (6:31:23 PM): you know if you put a friends cell number on your buddy list and put one in front of it it will text their phone
me (6:32:12 PM): no i didn't know that
me (6:32:20 PM): good to know though
her (6:32:16 PM): hmm iguess
me (6:33:16 PM): you guess, nice
me (6:34:18 PM): some technology looks sick though
me (6:34:31 PM): like the tv built in some humans brain
me (6:35:47 PM): oh great another story
her (6:35:33 PM): um, interesting well i gtg i will ttyl prob see oyu at work next week i think your dad said your coming in not sure but ok ya bubye
me (6:36:08 PM): bye
me (6:36:17 PM): oh and i think I am coming in on monday
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me (6:36:25 PM): see you then
me (6:49:38 PM): your back on already
her (6:49:26 PM): ya haha.
me (6:50:04 PM): thought you where gone
me (6:50:25 PM): I almost quit out of AIM for the rest of the night
her (6:50:08 PM): i left the came back
her (6:50:14 PM): o ok.
me (6:50:37 PM): oh
me (6:50:43 PM): i see
me (6:54:22 PM): are you going to be on aim tomorrow?
her (6:54:37 PM): umm prob
her (6:54:42 PM): why so?
me (6:55:09 PM): just wondering
her (6:54:57 PM): oh kk
me (6:56:00 PM): making sure your off the road incase i go driving
me (6:56:04 PM): just kidding
her (6:55:54 PM): hahaha o that was a good one
me (6:56:42 PM): thanx
her (6:56:31 PM): haha ya
me (7:01:40 PM): I knew you would like that
her (7:01:32 PM): o did you know
me (7:01:59 PM): yeah
me (7:02:16 PM): I was expecting a different answer thoguh
me (7:02:19 PM): though*
her (7:02:24 PM): like what?
me (7:04:00 PM): I don't know
her (7:04:02 PM): haha ok
 
Brinson is a pro at relationships.

no there is no such thing as a pro. he is very analytical, but that doesn't mean the way he thinks is best. by pro your implying hes amazing at dating, but his interpretation of a relationship isn't always the one he might follow.

i think we are analyzing a healthy relationship way too much here anyway. its all theory and no practice. the only way you can learn about dating and relationships and the sort of things your in for is to go out there and meet as many people as you can (without the sex of course) even if it is only to be friends.

you seem to have a very narrow train of thought, implying you cant have an intense friendship without it becoming a relationship, or you cant have an intense relationship and not be married. its all down to practice and experience, my friend. i've come along way since my first girlfriend. its all part of growing up.

im sure your not going to listen to me though seeming as i don't 'understand' you like trotter does : /
 
Didn't say I understood, but I think we are coming from the same general area.

Marriage is a splendid thing, but it is only as good as you make it. If you invest yourself in it, it will grow and deepen. If you don't, it will wither away.

My wife and I have been married for going on 21 years. At times it has been hard... I am not always lovable, and she has her times as well. We've been through prosperity and we've been broke. We've had great times, and we've had bad ones. we've had laughter, and we've had tears. The main thing was that we were there for each other, period. We've had to take a time or two and step back and see where we were going, but we have worked on our marriage and it has paid off. Our relationship is better, deaper now than when we were first married.

Norcent, don't even think about marriage right now. Don't even think about dating. right now you're starting to talk... see where that goes. if you get the cart in front of the horse you will end up hurt. Sometimes talking is all it takes to make things click, but talking can also clue you in that the two of you may not be a good fit.

just take it one step at a time.
 
Well said, Brinson.

A relationship must be built on a solid foundation that will not erode over time. Sex, while great, does not last forever. Time and gravity will have their effects over time.

If a relationship is built upon mutual trust and common goals and beliefs, it will be able to last. Anyone who marries just to have sex should never be allowed to marry... at least not until they grow up.

ur the wisest relationship guru man!!
 
my friend told me why he said to dump her. He said I should be harder to get and to tell my girl friend that I went to the movies with somebody else "a chick" of course and then she will feel jelous and he said to ask her why she's jelous cause I asked her out to the movies and she said she was busy. I know she is busy cause she works 2 jobs but should I do that? Should I tell her I took another chick to the movies or somewhere?
 
Heh.

The stupid little tricks like that may work every once and a while. Really, they might, but how insecure are you? Do you not think she'll say yes otherwise? Are you not good enough to get her to say yes?

If not, why? Is it because you're not as good as you want to be? Or is it because she is different from you? If that's the case...why do you want to date her?
 
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