Yeah I have three kids. Getting a trophy just because you participated is crap. All that does is remove incentive to do better. The ones that want to do well will, the rest will be content with average or below average performance because they get the same reward as the ones that work hard. We need to quit worrying about hurting someone's feelings and start getting people, not just kids, to WANT to do more. I see it all the time, people saying that "when they pay me more I will do more". Well to me that's backwards. When you do more, you should get more. No pay for potential, pay for performance. Reward the work, not the fact you showed up.