Re: Remote Desktop Connection's Not Cuttin' It HELP!!!!!!
VNC viewer is the solution you're looking for. It's a network admin tool, but I've re-purposed it to remote control computers like that which are hooked up to a TV. It does what Remote desktop doesn't. It lets you view the screen on both your desktop and on the netbook. I know windows remote desktop locks the console out when someone logs in remotely.
On your desktop, install VNC server. I set mine up in user mode with no password. I also set up windows to automatically log in. If you do this, you'll want to ensure that a shortcut is placed into your windows startup folder so VNC server starts each time the computer starts. You can also run it as a windows service, but I never went that far.
Then on your netbook, find the VNC client, install, and use that to view the screen remotely on your netbook and control it. That should be all there is to it.
Teamviewer and Log me in strike me as being solutions you want to use over remote connections and for VPN type solutions. I would guess they'd lag pretty badly, even if you use them on your local network. They're definitely easier to set up for a total noob than VNC server though.