yes i am
and sounds like ur friend said exactly what i said to you!!
that cpu's oc differnet and have different capabilities!!! which is why i asked if it was a recently purchased q6600
and as far as ram goes... we would need to know which specific model of ram you have so we could see what its rated for
(example: 2x1 GB Ballistix Tracers Rated 4-4-4-14 1t @ 1.v) don't know if thats true.. lol but that is an example... if you can find out the model we can definitely help
but setting it to ddr800 5-5-5-15 2t 2.0v is pretty much a guarantee for any set of ddr800 ram
and someone who sets up servers and what not is a totally different field than overclocking
i know me few people who specialize in IT and what not... but doesnt mean they know how to take a cpu to 4.0ghz!! lol