Are you sure you have bluetooth in your notebook?
Go to Device Manager (Control Panel, Sysytem, Hardware, Device manager) and check under Bluetooth Radio if you do have bluetooth on your laptop, and if the driver is installed or has any problems...
If not...then how exactly are you trying to connect?
Have you tried sending-receiving a file from your laptop??
Trun Discovery ON on your phone...then go to Control Panel, click on Bluethooth Devices, and click on Add New Device, check My Device is setup and ready to be found, then click next...Once the device is added, try sending from laptop (right clicking on a file and click sent to>bluehtooth device) to phone or vice versa...see if that works...
If that didnt work...go to Bluetooth devices in Control Panel, click on Options, and check the box where it says Show Bliutooth Icon in Notifaction Area...Once you see the icon in the system tray...right click on it and Click on receive a file, try sending anything from your phone...(or on send a file....and try sending...)
Hope that helps!